I am just reading this book – only in the first chapter but already hooked.
Wanted to share this:
I never feel more given to
than when you take from me –
when you understand the joy I feel
giving to you.
And you know my giving isn’t done
to put you in my dept,
but because I want to live the love
I feel for you.
To receive with grace
my be the greatest giving.
There’s no way I can separate the two
When you give to me,
I give you my receiving.
When you take from me,
I feel so given to.
“Given to” 1978 by Ruth Bebermeyer from the album Given to.
When we give from the heart, we do so out of the joy that springs forth whenever we willingly enrich another person’s life. This kind of giving benefits both the giver and the receiver. The receiver enjoys the gift without worrying about the consequences that accompany gifts given out of fear, guit, shame, or desire for gain. The giver benefits from the enhanced self-esteem that results when we see our efforts contributing to someone’s well-being.
Non Violent Communication Summary:
NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. It guides us to reframe the way we express ourselves and listen to others by focusing our consciousness on four areas: what we are observing, feeling and needing, and what we are requesting to enrich our lives. NVC fosters deep listening, respect, and empathy and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart. Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political area. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.
Filipa Hope gives courses on NVC in Hawk’es Bay, so if you feel drawn to this please get in touch with her. Its on my to list once I find a course that fits in my schedule. But this book is a good start.
I really think this should be taught in school.
Thank you Sandra Witzel for inspiring me to buy it! xxx